The Power Question

I will never forget this question not only because it came from someone who has nothing but love for me but because it actually made me think... 

  

 "Why do you always allow people to become close to you, and to make a place in your heart who don't deserve the amount of effort and love that you put into them?"

"It's because I'm a fixer & I believe that if I can at one point in time no matter how long it may take if I can get them to love me with that same amount and that exact much effort that I've done something right and will feel worthy and needed. The little I love yous from those people mean that all the time is worth it. I have their love. And with everyday that passes maybe theirs is growing to be where mine is."

Be Different

To be okay is all one ever really wants, but a lot of the time most never get to be. Do you know how much sadness one goes through on a day to day bases? Have you ever picked on someone? Have you ever said something to someone that could in some way make them feel as is they aren't good enough? Who are you to say that someone is too skinny? Who are you to say that someone is too fat? Too tall? Too short? Who are you? You are no better than the one standing next to you. At the end of the day we all bleed the same. We're all just human. You say that "you didn't mean it" but is that because you're full of regret now? Isn't it true that in that moment when those insulting word came out of your mouth you meant every single one? It's it true that when you punched that kid you did it just to "look cool"? Do you want to walk around responsible for someone else's sadness? The pain that such little things can cause. Today is the day you can change. Just because you have said some hurtful things in the past does not mean you can't change it now. Reach out. If you think someone is hurting HELP THEM! I promised you an "Are you okay?" can go a long way with someone who is in pain. Stop being a part of the problem and start being a part of the solution. Stop hurting and start helping. It can all start with you. We live in a world when everyone is following someone else. Be the leader that shows compassion. Be the leader that is there when no one else seems to be. Lead yourself in the right direction and you'll see those around you start to change as well. It can all start with you only if you'd let it. There is nothing okay about making someone feel worthless just so you can feel worth it. If we as a unit don't change our ways things will never be the same, things will only get worse. Be different.